15 SIGNS YOU HAVE HIGH EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE (PART 3)

When emotional intelligence (EQ) first appeared to the masses, it served as the missing link in a peculiar finding. People with average IQs outperform those with the highest IQs 70 percent of the time. This anomaly threw a massive wrench into the broadly-held assumption that IQ was the sole source of success.

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11. You neutralize toxic people

Dealing with difficult people is frustrating and exhausting for most. High emotional intelligence individuals control their interactions with toxic people by keeping their in check. When they need to confront a toxic person, they approach the situation rationally. They identify their own emotions and don’t allow anger or frustration to fuel the chaos.

They also consider the difficult person’s standpoint and are able to find solutions and common ground. Even when things completely derail, emotionally intelligent people are able to take the toxic person with a grain of salt to avoid letting him or her bring them down.

 

You neutralize toxic people

 

12. You don’t seek perfection

High emotional intelligent people won’t set perfection as their target because they know that it doesn’t exist. Human beings, by our very nature, are fallible. When perfection is your goal, you are always left with a nagging sense of failure that makes you want to give up or reduce your effort. You end up spending your time lamenting what you failed to accomplish and what you should have done differently instead of moving forward, excited about what you have achieved and what you will accomplish in the future.

13. You appreciate what you have

Taking time to contemplate what you are grateful for is not merely the right thing to do, it also improves your mood because it reduces the stress hormone cortisol by 23 percent. Research conducted at the University of California, Davis, found that people who worked daily to cultivate an attitude of gratitude experienced improved mood, energy and physical well-being. It’s likely that lower levels of cortisol played a major role in this.

 

You appreciate what you have


14. You disconnect

Taking regular time off the grid is a sign of a high EQ because it helps you to keep your stress under control and to live in the moment. When you make yourself available to your work 24/7, you expose yourself to a constant barrage of stressors. Forcing yourself offline and even gulp, turning off your phone gives your body and mind a break. Studies have shown that something as simple as an email break can lower stress levels. Technology enables constant communication and the expectation that you should be available 24/7.It extremely difficult to enjoy a stress free moment outside of work when an email that will change your train of thought and get you thinking about work can drop onto your phone at any moment.

15. You limit your caffeine intake

Drinking excessive amounts of caffeine triggers the release of adrenaline, and adrenaline is the source of the fight or flight response. The fight or flight mechanism sidesteps rational thinking in favor of a faster response to ensure survival. This is great when a bear is chasing you, but not so great when you are responding to a curt email. When caffeine puts your brain and body into this hyper aroused state of stress, your emotions overrun your behavior.

Caffeine’s long half-life ensures you stay this way as it takes its sweet time working its way out of your body. High emotional intelligence individuals know that caffeine is trouble and they don’t let it get the better of them.

 

You limit your caffeine intake

 

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